Monday, June 22, 2015

2nd year of wedding anniversary..

It is 2 years today, since I've joined my life journey with my wonderful friend, lover, boyfriend, fiancee.. now husband Nick.

Our love story started back in 2009, when we've met for the first time during my visit in San Diego.
Both of us joined Couchsurfing.org some time before we've met, and as some of you may know, couchsurfing works the best, when you have reference from other people. I was coming from Cancun, Mexico to visit, for few weeks, or maybe months. Nick wanted to travel around Europe.
And so we've met. He told me, that he remembers meeting me in @Bamboo Lounge, which I don't remember (since.. according to his words, I was surrounded by many other guys competing for my attention and he didn't feel like trying to get in the circle). I remember meeting the following week @Old Town San Diego, where we had our couchsurfing weekly meeting for tacos and drinks.

My friend Lilia brought him to the table and introduced him to everyone. I still see the sweet smile on his face and sparks in his eyes. I knew right away, that I like him, he is cute and handsome, but I wasn't looking for anyone, any serious relationship (I just ended one back in Cancun after 5years).
But since San Diego isn't that big and couchsurfing is very friendly and close group of people meeting at different places, we've met at several different occasions,  and realized, that we’d like to talk a little more in privacy. Since our mutual friend Coco recommended us some very artistic movie to watch, it was a date. I was staying with a friend of mine Lilia and Daniel at that time, so Nick came over and we sat next to each other on a couch, started the movie on our computer.. and just the opening scene was pretty shocking.. The movie is called Shortbus and if you haven’t seen it, I wouldn’t recommend it for your first date!! Hahahaha.
Against my best intentions not to get involved with anyone, I felt very interesting shyness towards him. Which indicates that I really like someone.


We've stayed in touch over the years as very special friends and in 2012, when I was visiting some friends in LA and San Diego, Nick and I sat down and talked and talked for hours. We've discovered, that we share same spiritual, intellectual, emotional and physical attraction and we were both ready to share our lives with a life partner. We no longer wanted to just fool around.
Decision was made and Nick left everything behind to go to Czech Republic for the first time. To see my country, meet my family and friends and see the big part of me that he didn't know.
Everyone loved Nick, he loved my country and family and friends (my family never liked any of my boyfriends before), so I knew, that this time around, I found a very good match for my life, because my family could see that too.
At the beginning of the 2013 Nick had to go back to USA and I followed him not longer after.


Before we moved in together with another friends into an intentional community in April, Nick and I started to talk about our international relationship options. As some of you may know, to go back and forth and spend a lot of time apart might be super challenging and difficult, Nick and I decided that that's not for us..
And there we were.. talking about marriage and what it meant for us and to us..

This was actually our staged picture for our engagement.. We proposed to each other, cried our tears of joy together and started with the preparation of our wedding in Nick's parent's back yard (after this beautiful picture was taken). His mom and dad were helping with everything, with the help of their friends and family. I'm feeling so much gratitude for my new family and welcoming them into their lives and hearts.


We got married on June 22nd 2013, in Poway with our friends, Nick's family and my family watching on skype. Our pictures were taken by my friend and exboyfriend Tomas Vrzala.



And since we didn't really follow many traditions, half way through the isle, we joined our path and walked together, greeted by aunt Meshell, who officiated our wedding ceremony.
And started with meditation, asking everyone to join with closed eyes and open hearts.
That was marvelous moment full of joy and real connection, that was present all around, across the USA to the East Coast family (who watched live broadcast of our wedding as well), across the ocean all the way to Czech Republic, where was my family, watching and celebrating with us.
My heart is filling with more joy, appreciation and love every day. The longer I can share my life with Nick and his family living nearby, the richer my life is getting and I'm grateful for the love and life we can share.

I made our wedding cake (skills that my mom has taught me).







Among many beautiful gifts, this one from Nick's best man and best friend David made it into the posted picture as well :-) Since it's representation of the life and path we are choosing.


This picture is very precious, because my father in law doesn't like to dance. I had the privilege to dance with him on my wedding day, to my delight.
And Nick, with his loving, caring and wonderful mom. The best mother in law that I could ever  have!!!
Our couples photoshoot took place in Balboa Park couple days before our actual wedding day. It made it so much easier and more enjoyable.
 From there, we went to the Sunset Cliffs, that we both like very much.

And from there, walked to the Ocean Beach, where was our first proposal to our relationship and our engagement, to watch the sunset.



 Since we had another 2 weddings, I will post few pictures from those as well. They were all part of our wedding loving experience, celebration of our love with both of our families.
Another one took place in Richmond, Virginia in September.





We celebrated with Nick's grandma and his father's family. It was such a joyous day as well.
 I love my new goofy and funny cousins!! ;-)
What a privilege to celebrate with grandma Dorrien, who is going strong on 97 years this year.
 East Coast family and family friends.

And last but not least... Wedding in Czech Republic. What a beautiful sunny day on April 4th, 2014.
The only cloud above our heads was grief of my deceased youngest brother Filip.
 With my wonderful father Karel.
My eldest sister Kristyna translated the whole wedding for the English speaking groom and some guests. 
 Our first dance. So much fun and everybody had a good time.

Thank you Nick for your love, support, courage (to go to Czech, quit your job and relationship and leave your wonderful family behind), and open heart for our life journeys.
And the whole families, that welcomed both me and Nick into their lives and hearts!! We couldn't be who we are without you.


















Friday, June 19, 2015

Being doula/photographer is my new journey...

Becoming a doula is a beautiful gift to me. At the beginning of this year, one day, I just woke up and knew (inspiration was just flowing through me), that I can incorporate being a doula perfectly into my life. Professional and personal. As a photographer, I can capture beautiful pregnancy pictures, capture the birth itself and pictures of the baby and the family with new baby after the birth.
As a caring and loving woman, who wants to empower myself and other women to become the full potential we are, it's a wonderful opportunity to be present to a miracle we call life. To be at the very beginning of welcoming the new being into this world. To be there for the birthing mom and her partner and baby.
I started my doula training online few months ago, and I've already had the blessing of being at my first birth. It was my friend Viki with her husband Andor and their baby Alma.
It was a hospital birth @Mercy Scripps in Hilcrest, San Diego. I have to say, that the nurses were very nice and helpful, except one little strange one, but luckily, after half hour or so, she left and never came back.


 My friend did as natural birth at the hospital as possible, but there is still some intrusion, measuring the contractions, IV, etc..
But other than that, they pretty much left us there alone a lot of the time, which was nice. Because we could concentrate on the present moment. What a beautiful present moment. I couldn't really think of anything else. It was definitely very special.. How powerful the life force is!! It won't give you any other option than to be right there, not to think about anything else..
I'm still wrapping up around this whole experience and it's hard to find words for it. I know that my friend was experiencing pain, but at the same time, the encouragement and support was so important for her.
The only down part of that experience was the fact, that the doctor didn't come for about half an hour through her pushing contractions, which became super frustrating for my friend and unnecessary extra pain.



Once the doctor came in, it took only about half hour to push the baby and it was sooo amazing for me to see the flexibility and magnificence of the women's ability to give life.

I believe that any woman should be present at one birth at least once in her life, other than her own children.

I felts so much emotions and such a profound deep respect for her, as woman and mother. And it stuck with me. It's sooo divine to be present to such miracle. It is indescribable in words..
And how it warmed my heart, when I brought over her other two children in the hospital and after welcoming their new sister and having a beautiful peaceful family time (that I captured here and there...), her 8 years old son told me: Barbora, it's so great that you are here, because you can capture all these beautiful pictures of us for us.
 First minutes of the baby's life...
 With her daddy...
 Together with both of her parents...

 So much love, care and very beautiful, strong emotions... Beautiful family welcoming it's newest member.

This was such a precious moment.. The big brother was just saying.. We are both gonna be your knights to protect and love you!!!


And last but not least.. it's me, with the beautiful baby....

I feel so much love, appreciation and blessing for this beautiful new path, opportunity to be at service and part of life altering experience...


Here is a short slideshow of some pictures from the birthing day...
http://havlickova.com/~ALMA/Alma-birh-short.m4v




Friday, June 12, 2015

Starting with blogging... have patience with me!

I'm not a native English speaker, so forgive me for my grammar mistakes. I was born and raised in Czech Republic, beautiful little country in the heart of Europe (I was actually born in Czechoslovakia and after the 1993 those two countries split).

Why did I decided to start a blog... My clients are letting me into their lives, and trusting me with some pretty big moments. The more I can give them reason to feel comfortable with hiring me, the better.
So this blog will be about me, what I do, what I experience. Some tips and tricks and whatever inspires and motives the best in me.

I believe that You have to be the change you want to see in the World. Here I am.
That's why I decided to expose myself and some little parts of what have shaped me into the person that you might meet.